When we let go is normally because we realize that we love ourselves way more than we love the other person. It makes it easier to look at all the negatives, your suffer and pain and realize that if you truly love yourself more, you will not allow yourself to continue to go through that. You must do what is best for you and if letting the person you love go because he/she is hurting you, then let it be. I believe that you should not give up as you should fight for what you want. When you put your all into something and your all "isn't good enough" then there is nothing else you can do. I do not necessarily think that is giving up. I believe that you're letting go of something that you are trying to make work when in reality it isn't working. We fight, fight and fight but if they aren't fighting back then we are just fighting with ourselves. Every and any type of relationship should be 50%-50%. It should be mutual! So when you give your all and they are not giving anything back is not worth a fight. So like i said, is not giving up it is just moving on to bigger and better things. Moving on to something that will fight back with you. Someone that will fight for you. Someone that will cherish every moment with you. Someone that will understand you and wants to turn your frown into a smile. Someone that can give you their all. Lastly, someone that wants to be a part of your life.
At times, individuals feel like they need to change the other person. But, you should never try and change a person because it will only be temporary. They should want to change for themselves so it can be permanent. However, if the feelings they have for you are strong and genuine then they will change because you are the motivation for a change within. Everyone wants to change for the better. Everyone wants to let their dirty past go and create a bright future. We all get tired of the same old. So if the same old means having sex with random females because you are being a "man" then hey it is what it is. But I know you do not want to live that life forever. Fellas, are you willing to change your ways if you find the right female at the wrong time? Opportunities can pass you by and never come back. Don't let it go if it's worth it.
In some occasions, both parties do not want to let go. However, you cannot have your cake and eat it too. You do not want to let go because you love that person but yet you are going to put them through hell and expect them to stay there? Sorry but that is just wrong and selfish. I mean if she truly loves you she might put up with a lot. But, I bet you the ONLY reason she is putting up with it, is because she extremely loves you and she has hopes that you will change. But when you are not changing and is affecting her why would she stay? ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! We can only put up with so much before the pain starts to tear us apart. Like I always say, if a man wants you in his life he will do anything in his power to keep you around. So the question to guy is, do you really love the female? There is no way you can love someone and you are affecting them emotionally. Do you really want to see someone you love hurting? Either let them go or get yourself together and make it work. Fellas, if she is the one i suggest you get yourself together and quick because once she is gone, she is GONE forever.
Ladies, stay strong! No one said healing from a broken heart would be easy, but it is not impossible. If he isn't giving you what you want and need someone out there will. I know it hurts to know that you gave them your all and would have jumped in front of a bullet for them and they probably would of pulled the trigger shooting you. Trust me I know, been there and still there. But what can we really do? We cannot wait for them our whole life hoping they will change. Some men will never change. The way I see it, if they are willing to let you go that quick and without a fight then is not worth it. You fought, you stayed, you cried, you were in pain and all he does is turn around and let you walk away.
Note: If you TRULY LOVE someone you will move on, maybe never speak to them again, forgive them and you will ALWAYS love them. If you do not love them after you moved on, then you never did. I believe there is only one type of love and that is unconditional. So, is your love real?