Some guys believe that you can have sex without any type of attachments. Well, I believe that but then at the same time i don't. Like yes, maybe it could possibly work if you have sex with her and there is no spending time together, no cuddling, kissing, anything to do with quality time. But on the other hand if you are spending time with this female it is obvious feelings will develop. Why? it is human nature. Admit it! The sad part is, can he really care and love you when he is caring and growing feelings for another female while he is "seriously" talking to you or y'all are in a relationship? Yes and No. Yes, because sometimes you cannot help when you love someone and sometimes that love is unconditional. No, he cannot possibly love you and he is willing to lose you over a new female that he is growing feelings for. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. Sometimes we lose what we truly love over mistakes and the unwillingness to grow up and be mature about a situation.
But what happens if you find the right girl at the wrong time? Well, this right here is just awful. I mean if it's bad timing it is obvious that he is not ready for a relationship. It can be because he is young, immature, having fun and not ready to give their all to just ONE woman. However, you can always make the wrong time the right time. Meaning, If you know deep in your heart, and of course use your head as well, that something great is in front of you man up because once it's gone it's gone and there is no coming back. We have to make sacrifices in life. The question is, are you sacrificing for the right reasons? If a man feels like he is in a relationship with you but yet y'all are not official he is having best of both worlds. I mean why would he get in a relationship if he has you wrapped around his finger while doing him at the same time. Man are greedy and selfish but, so are woman. All I am trying to say is that a man will always want that one female that will be there for him regardless of what the circumstances might be. So thats why he will continue to do what he does. Because he feels that through all his dirt you are not going anywhere. But when is enough, enough? A woman can love you unconditionally but at the end of the day she has to look out for herself because she has to love herself more. If you are not giving her reasons to stay and to work towards a future why would she stay? You give us reasons to be gone and we will be out the door.
A lot of Males are not good at expressing how they feel or they are scared to actually say how they feel and be let down or be rejected. However, even if you are not good at expressing yourself you can say the smallest stuff as "i care" and show it. At then end of the day, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. Although, you cannot express your feelings you can always show them. How can you show them? In what you do, how you talk, how you say things, how you approach her, even how you might treat her different than other females. There is so much you can do to express how you truly feel about her. Fellas, I suggest that if you care or love a female let her know because tomorrow might be too late.
Gentleman, if you do not have any intentions with a female keep it real. Lay the cards on the table rather than playing them. Stop misleading females and being the reason why another man has to suffer for the pain and hurt you have caused her. We do have feelings you know? we do love hard! And then you wonder why males like YOU make females BITTER and degrade men. You make us this way! You are the reason why a lot of females believe every man is the same, so the next man will pay for it. Stop it! If you were in our shoes you would understand. Since you are not, i do not expect you to. But, realize that hurting a female goes further than just a tear.
Ladies, if a guy starts changing on you then he does not feel the same way or there is another female in the picture. Pay attention to the small things such as no good morning texts, texting and calls start to decrease, he is always busy but has time for other things. It can even be that he does not kiss you as much as he used to before. It can be that he pulls out a condom, or it can be that he no longer wants scratches on his back. Trust me, when they start changing there is a reason behind it.
Note: If a guy cares for you or loves you and wants to keep you around, he will do EVERYTHING in his power TO KEEP YOU AROUND and not let you go. If a guy truly wants you he will claim whats his and make sure that you are not going anywhere. Us female get carried away by the sweet talk and most of the time its believable. So i understand why we fall for it. Sometimes we lose something great and find something greater. But sometimes you find the best, throw it away and settle for less.